Sunday 5 September 2010

An Insider's Guide to Computer Dating Services

Computer dating services have been around for decades, even before the Internet came along. Years ago, these electronic matchmakers used extensive profiles compiled in a dating company's offices. Some included additional features liked videotaped messages or interviews that were shared with interested singles who turned out to be a match.

Looking back, these computer dating services were considered cutting edge technology. Imagine what it seemed like back in the pre-Web days: you filled out a questionnaire and those answers were fed into a computer, which churned away and finally, after much computing time, spit out a list of potential singles who were the best match for you.

It all seemed so mysterious and technical. In fact, most of those computer dating services more than likely used a very simple matching formula. The "computer" behind the matching was the "hook" or the "draw" that brought paying customers through the door. These days, with the average person being exposed to so much more technology, with computers in basically every single household and high-speed internet connections being the norm, these old-style dating services seem antiquated by modern standards.

So what has become of the old school computer dating service? Well, today they've become the modern Web-based dating services. These are now the well known (and perhaps not so well known) online sites you've seen advertised so frequently. On the surface, these new style computer dating services mirror the old style services, except instead of reporting to the company's offices for a matching session, you can enter your information from the comfort of your own home. That's right, go online in your pajamas if you like and fill out the questions online at any hour of the day or night.

Beyond the basics of how computer dating services work, the matching process has also become more sophisticated. While years ago a simple matching process was sufficient, these days customers expect a greater level of matching prowess, ensuring that the people they are matched with are much more compatible than those they would normally meeting in the offline dating world.

While in the "real world" a dating relationship could well start with an introduction from friends. Followed up with a series of phone calls until the two people involved are comfortable with one another. Whereas, the online dating world starts with an electronic introduction between two singles and then, most often, a series of e-mails form the start of the dating relationship.

Many of today's singles are too young to remember the old style computer dating services, but they're certainly very familiar with the singles matching services available online. Today you can expect a very good level of sophistication when the modern systems are matching your profile with other available singles, but remember: the introduction is only the beginning. It's up to you to take your dating relationship where you want to go.

Saturday 4 September 2010

Women on Dating - What Makes for a Perfect Guy

Men spend a lot of time trying to figure out what women want. Often, women won’t come right out and tell you what she needs. Instead, she sends out coy signals which she expects you to interpret.  So, here I’m going to be straight with you.  This is women on dating – what makes for a perfect boyfriend?

When talking to each other, women on dating say that it is important for a boyfriend to stick up for her.  While she doesn’t want to be smothered, a woman does like to be slightly protected.  One way you demonstrate this is to stick up for her when someone challenges her.

Another thing women on dating talk about is whether a guy knows how to cheer her up.  Women are moody (you already knew that) and often fall into funks.  A man who knows how to return a woman to the sunny disposition that she wants to project is a godsend.

When talking about the men in their lives, women say that they like their guys to be affectionate in public.  This doesn’t mean pawing at them.  But, giving her a hug when you meet, holding her hand, and slipping your arm around her shoulders when she is with her friends are all physical signs that she belongs to you.

One thing most women say they wish their boyfriends did more of is dance. Many women are quite uninhibited on the dance floor and they want their guys to share this passion. Unfortunately, many men shy away from this pursuit because they feel like they have two left feet.  But your girlfriend doesn’t care that you are not the smoothest man on the floor.  What she cares about is that you are out there with her.

Dancing is a great way to get a woman primed to go to bed with you as well.  When you demonstrate your moves on the floor, she is likely to welcome you into her bedroom.

Another thing, say women on dating, is that you should call more often.  Call her for no reason.  Call to say “I miss you.”  Call and let her chat.  Your picking up the phone lets her know that you think about her even when she isn’t around.

To that end, be the one who says “I love you.”  Women are often willing to say it earlier in the relationship than men are.  Also, when guys love a woman, they express it with actions.  Some bring women gifts.  Others are affectionate.  But a woman needs to hear those three little words.

Another thing women on dating say is that they like it when you are nice to your mom and female relatives.  Even if they are not looking at marriage or a long term relationship, women like to know that you would be a good husband.

Finally, one of the things you can do to really capture a woman’s heart is to – occasionally – watch a chick flick.  She probably watches football with you from time to time.  You can reciprocate by watching a romantic comedy with her.  Know that doing this a couple of times a year is sufficient.  That’s four hours out of your life.  She’s worth it.

So that is what women on dating say they want.

Wednesday 1 September 2010

How Do I Get My Ex Back After A Breakup

If you are coming from a hard breakup, and you and your loved one are at a position where neither of you are sure what is coming next. What you really want to know is how do I get my ex back after such an event? Luckily, there are a few things that you can do to test if there is still hope for the relationship.

1 - Talk to your partner, noting their response and reaction to what they say. If they listen without interruption, and even drop what they are doing in order to listen, then they are likely still interested. Signs like these indicate a willingness to sacrifice time for what you are talking about.

2 - Wear a new piece of clothing, and watch and listen for a compliment or even notice that you have changed. Any compliment is a good indicator of interest.

3 - Direct your conversation towards the breakup. If your partner uses language and phrases which indicate that they are distracted or remorseful regarding the breakup. Such language is a good sign that you are still liked by your partner. These are signals which will answer your "how do I get my ex back after" right from the horses mouth.

4 - If your partner calls a lot for small talk, it can be a sign of continued interest. Your partner may also schedule a call, but after failing to call will apologize and give explanation. This concern is a sign that your opinion of your partner matters, and is a good sign of interest.

5 - Start to dangle other partner prospects in conversation, and observe how much interest your partner takes. Getting very quiet, or very inquisitive is a sign that your ex is still holding interest in you. Asking your friends about who you may be seeing is a strong indicator that you are still wanted.

6 - Go the other way and ask about who your partner is interested in. Changing the subject, hiding it or in some way deferring the question is a strong indicator that you are the person they are interested in. Once again an answer to your question of "how do I get my ex back after" right from the one you are trying to makeup with.

7 - Eye contact is also a good indicator, so testing his interest through making eye contact is a strong way to gauge their interest.

8 - Flirt with your ex partner, just lightly, and see if your partner will flirt with you back. This will be one heck of signal you are on the right track for "how do I get my ex back" stratargy.

9. Try to have a conversation, over email or text, maybe once or twice a week. Do not overdo it, you'll only make your ex push farther and farther from you. Teasing and making note of changes is a way to see that you ex still has feelings for you.

10.Physical contact is a definite sign of having feelings. Just be sure to be direct, sparse in you language and by no means be mean, for being mean will just ensure that your partner doesn't take you back.

When attempting these you should not try too hard to change him. You cannot make anyone love you. You should also act naturally, for if you win him by not being true to yourself, then it will only lead to more heart break.

As you can these are very common sense answers for "how do I get my ex back after", they are by no means the only ways for you; to get your one and only love back. Use your on common sense and find what's right for you.

E-book Recommendation:
The Magic Of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back)
A book from the man that has secretly helped 50,119 people in 77 countries. He will take you by the hand and show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your ex lover back in your arms, especially if you are the only one trying.

Friday 27 August 2010

Top 5 Dating Tips for Women

Are you trying to land the perfect guy?  Are you looking for someone who will truly commit to you?  If so, follow these 5 dating tips for women.


#1 – Don’t bring up an ex on an early date.
Ignore this dating tip at your own peril.  If you talk about an ex on one of your first dates, he is going to conclude that you either are not over your last boyfriend or that you are bitter.  In either case, he is not likely to want to get involved with someone who still talks about an ex.

Instead, focus on the man you are with.  Find out what he is interested in and what makes him tick.  Men are very selfish.  They want to talk about themselves, not the last guy you were with.


#2 – Be yourself
Too many women try to “impress” a guy by being someone they are not.  Unfortunately, you won’t be able to keep up the façade.  Instead, you are likely to revert to being yourself.  But if you have led him to believe that you are someone else, he will feel tricked.  While you want to put your best face forward, you ultimately have to be comfortable in your own skin.


#3 – Don’t talk about the future too soon
One of the biggest dating tips for women is to not project a guy you are just getting to know into the future.  You shouldn’t bring up your desire for marriage and children on a first date!  Beyond that, don’t start fantasizing about “happily ever after,” because you will soon work these dreams into your conversations with the new guy.  Instead, have fun and enjoy the guy’s company.  If things seem compatible after a length of time, you still have time to work on the “relationship.”


#4 – Accept compliments
This scenario happens over an over.  A man meets a woman and says the first thing on his mind, “you look nice.”  The woman blushes and starts to explain just how much is wrong with the way she looks.  The hairdresser messed up the cut, the blouse she wanted to wear was at the drycleaner, and so on.
Guess what?  He doesn’t care!  He just thinks you look nice.
The only proper response to a compliment is “thank you.”


#5 – Have opinions
Too many dating tips for women stress that you should always agree with your date.  Nothing could be farther from the truth.  It doesn’t bode well to fall for a guy who only wants a sycophant.  In the long run, you are going to want to be with a man who is strong enough to accept your opinions.  In fact, you want someone who will value your opinions and look to you for advice.  If you don’t have this, the relationship will be unsatisfactory to you.  So, don’t start the relationship by pretending that you don’t have any opinions.

So, those are my top five dating tips for women.  Keep them in mind the next time you go out with a man you are attracted to. :)

E-book recommendation:
Calling Men: The Complete Guide To Calling & Emailing the Men You Date
This e-book tells you everything you need to know about calling, emailing, texting the men you date. This is a book written by Mimi Tanner, author "Secrets of Flirting With Men" and "Hard To Get". Don't miss this. ;)

Friday 13 August 2010

Double Dating - Is It For You?

Have you ever go out on a date with the person you don't really know well? As the date progresses, you might realize there is no chemistry among the two of you and you are now in a position you had rather not be in. This can be disastrous.

Double dating can be a good solution in this case, especially if you are on a date with someone you like but are not confident to go out on a date with the person on 1-to-1 basis. It is usually much more easier to keep conversation flowing when there are more people involved, especially when the other couple in the double dating are somebody you know very well of. Some people are more comfortable when trying to get to know their date a little better when their friends are around them.

Dating double can be a positive time for you and your date to branch out and interact with other people, and broaden your peer group as a couple. If you really fancy your date and hope to see them again then why not impress them by taking along somebody that speaks highly of you and puts you in a good light? The way your friends come across and the way they speak about you can give your date a better impression of the type of person you are, and not the type of person you may pretend to be. Getting more people associated with you and your partner as a couple, allows you to show more about yourself to others, and be more open for group activities that can enhance your personal relationship with your partner.

Unfortunately, as with most things in life, there are also minuses to double dating. 

Although double dating can be a really fun time, it could end up a disastrous one. For example, you have been asked to go on a double date with another couple, and you have no knowledge of the other couple. It will be really hard to find things to do that everyone will enjoy during the date. Furthermore, if the other one couple wants to do something that you do not like you might feel obligated to go along when you would rather choose not to.

How about privacy? When you are in a double date, you may not have the privacy you can enjoy in your own dating. You will not be able to discuss your thoughts and share your feelings as you usually will in a double date.

Does double dating suit you? Be sure to weigh the pros and cons before you engage in a double dating. If possible, introduce the other couple to your partner before the date, or at least visually pointing out of who will be going. Make sure you inform you partner and consider the feeling of your partner before and after the double date.


Thursday 5 August 2010

Facing the Challenge of College Dating

What's so challenging about college dating? Let's take a look at this important period of change in a person's life.

Students facing the transition from high school to college are likely facing the biggest challenge they've ever had to face. Expectations are raised, both for themselves and from others. Moving on to college means moving on to a new level of academic performance.

It's the time when most of us move beyond being a not so serious teenager to a very serious adult who is focused on furthering their education and planning for their future. Not only are we expected to think more seriously about ourselves, but at the same time many of us find that we're leaving behind some of the relationships we've formed throughout our earlier school years. Best friends, acquaintances, team members, and even boyfriends and girlfriends are sometimes left behind as we move onto the next important stage in our lives and maturity.

So how difficult is it to handle this serious emotional, physical, academic, and personal change? College life can be intimidating, particularly for those who decide to attend school away from home. Moving away means not only losing the relationships they've grown comfortable with for so many years, but in many cases losing the emotional support system their family has been for them through their younger years. All aspects of college life may be completely foreign to the new college student, and college dating only complicates matters.

Why? Because at times many outgoing and engaging young people who had no problem creating dating relationships in high school may be intimidated by the prospect of dating a new "class" of potential partner.

The thing to remember about college dating is that one shouldn't approach it as such a serious process. There is plenty of "serious" stuff going on in your transition from high school teen to college adult, so to put too much emphasis on being serious about a relationship is not what college dating should be about.

Try and approach college dating as a way to share the college experience with someone who shares similar interests and preferences. Seek out dating relationships with classmates who are studying the same classes or are on the same degree track. In this way, you can be sure that your comfort level is established prior to beginning the formal dating process.

College dating doesn't have to be difficult. A new college student already faces enough of a challenge in this very important stage in their lives, so being too serious about their approach to dating shouldn't overwhelm them. There's plenty of time to be serious about a partner, but if a casual college dating relationship grows on its own into something more substantial, then at least it will come as a result of a natural process rather than an unnecessary focus on being overly serious.